Learning how to make good choices is an invaluable skill in life. Whether choosing a career path or where to spend your next vacation, it saves the time, mistakes and the hassles of trial by error approaches. It also builds your confidence and self-worth, and generates its own positive momentum. Fortunately, with attention and care, learning how to make good choices is a skill you can develop.
What are good choices? Good choices are reality based. They are ones that are aligned with your beliefs and values, maintain your standards, and are based on what matters most to you. They may come through logically thinking things through, or in a flash of intuition. These seven guideposts will help you confirm you are on the right track.
1. Good choices are reality based. Task one is to develop a willingness to suspend your assumptions, opinions, beliefs, desires or other delusions for a clear-eyed examination of the facts. Some relevant facts always include an awareness of your own preferences, resources and limitations, and the impact of your choices on yourself and others.
2. Develop a solid personal foundation. Identify what matters most to you, what you need from a situation, and what you want. Learn how to communicate clearly and effectively, to say no -or yes! – when you want to. Establish your personal boundaries and enforce them. Stop protecting others from your choices. Without a solid personal foundation you are bound to unconsciously get your needs met, but usually from acting out rather than acting kindly.
3. Sharpen and clarify your intention. Keep focusing on what you want, and the output you want. Stay tuned for solutions, synchronicities and opportunities. Take one step at a time. Do only what you know.
4. When in doubt, follow your intuition. Whether you call it instinct or following your gut, cultivate a way of staying it touch with your deepest knowing. People have different ways of receiving internal signals. Become familiar with yours. Remember that intuition is a psychic muscle that becomes stronger with use.
5. Eliminate shoulds, bought to, have-to's, or other judgments. They are a waste of time and extremely defeat your purpose of choosing what works best for you.
6. Recognize that your emotions count. Emotions count because extremely good choices are subjective: what is beneficial feet good or right, creates joy or warmth or good will. Caveat: some emotions are also just reactions, as when you know you must take a course of action that, although beneficial and right, is painful or distasteful to carry through.
7. Cultivate whole thinking. The body-mind connection is real. Your body as well as your emotions can give you clues about what's right and best. Fine-tune your receptivity to these messages.